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Holiday Love Rats Forum- Love Stories or Red Flags? Latest Questions

Bonjour , je suis inquiète pour ma soeur,. Elle a rencontré Jamel Sallami à l’hôtel Marhaba Salem il y a plus d’un an. Il lui a dit qu’il l’aimait même si elle a 20 de plus que lui, il lui a dit que l’âge n’est qu’un chiffre et elle l’a cru. Elle lui a versé beaucoup d’argent. Quand ils devaient se voir , il y avait toujours un prétexte pour repousser les rencontres.J’ai appris dernièrement qu’il avait une autre relation qu’il mène en parallèle. Je voulais savoir si certaines personnes le connaissaient et s’il a d’autres relations. Je veux sortir ma soeur de cette relation mais elle ne veut rien entendre. Je voudrais la mettre sur le fait accompli.

Bonjour , je suis inquiète pour ma soeur,.

Elle a rencontré Jamel Sallami à l’hôtel Marhaba Salem il y a plus d’un an.

Il lui a dit qu’il l’aimait même si elle a 20 de plus que lui, il lui a dit que l’âge n’est qu’un chiffre et elle l’a cru. Elle lui a versé beaucoup d’argent. Quand ils devaient se voir , il y avait toujours un prétexte pour repousser les rencontres.J’ai appris dernièrement qu’il avait une autre relation qu’il mène en parallèle. Je voulais savoir si certaines personnes le connaissaient et s’il a d’autres relations. Je veux sortir ma soeur de cette relation mais elle ne veut rien entendre. Je voudrais la mettre sur le fait accompli.

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Mon histoire est banale mais tellement triste…J’ai rencontré Jamel il y a 16 mois à l’hôtel Marhaba Royal Salem…Nous avons sympathisé , il ne s’est rien passé pendant ces vacances .On s’est échangé notre adresse Facebook…Rentrée en France, il m’a contacté et nous avons parlé de tout ….Puis progressivement, ses propos se sont enflammés ..mais avec 20 ans de plus que lui, je lui disais que ce n’était pas possible…mais il s’est montré persuasif et je suis tombée dans le piège …Un jour il m’a appelé en pleurs car sa mère souffrante avait besoin d’un traitement ,et je lui ai donné de l’argent …et je suis rentrée dans un engrenage, si je voulais le voir je devais lui donner de l’argent et de plus en plus…Mais dernièrement je me suis aperçue qu’il avait une autre petite amie.. J’ai contacté cette dame et me suis aperçue qu’il avait une relation avec ...Read more

Mon histoire est banale mais tellement triste…J’ai rencontré Jamel il y a 16 mois à l’hôtel Marhaba Royal Salem…Nous avons sympathisé , il ne s’est rien passé pendant ces vacances .On s’est échangé notre adresse Facebook…Rentrée en France, il m’a contacté et nous avons parlé de tout ….Puis progressivement, ses propos se sont enflammés ..mais avec 20 ans de plus que lui, je lui disais que ce n’était pas possible…mais il s’est montré persuasif et je suis tombée dans le piège …Un jour il m’a appelé en pleurs car sa mère souffrante avait besoin d’un traitement ,et je lui ai donné de l’argent …et je suis rentrée dans un engrenage, si je voulais le voir je devais lui donner de l’argent et de plus en plus…Mais dernièrement je me suis aperçue qu’il avait une autre petite amie.. J’ai contacté cette dame et me suis aperçue qu’il avait une relation avec nous 2 en même temps…Depuis il se montre méchant et menaçant envers moi. Finalement je me demande si nous n’étions que 2 dans sa vie. Est ce que quelqu’un le connait et peut me renseigner.

Merci de me le dire, cela m’aidera à passer à autre chose

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Voici ma triste histoire.. J’ai rencontré ce rat ,Jamel Salami, au Royal Marhaba Salem. il me disait qu’il m’aimait et qu’il n’y avait que moi dans sa vie J’ai appris par la suite qu’il avait au moins une femme dans sa vie. Je lui ai donné beaucoup d’argent pour soigner sa mère malade.. Je voudrais savoir si d’autres femmes sont tombées dans son piège .. Et mettre en garde tout le monde Si vous avez des infos , dites le moi ..

Voici ma triste histoire..

J’ai rencontré ce rat ,Jamel Salami, au Royal Marhaba Salem.

il me disait qu’il m’aimait et qu’il n’y avait que moi dans sa vie J’ai appris par la suite qu’il avait au moins une femme dans sa vie.

Je lui ai donné beaucoup d’argent pour soigner sa mère malade..

Je voudrais savoir si d’autres femmes sont tombées dans son piège ..

Et mettre en garde tout le monde

Si vous avez des infos , dites le moi ..

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Thirty -year -old mentally ill sociopath and Tunisian rat. I am having an affair with several women while pulling money from them in a very cunning way and other material benefits . His family supports him in this procedure (especially his mother and sisters).

Thirty -year -old mentally ill sociopath and Tunisian rat. I am having an affair with several women while pulling money from them in a very cunning way and other material benefits . His family supports him in this procedure (especially his mother and sisters).

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This is something that is rarely talked about but how do they behave in the beginning when they just getting to know you. I know all people are diffrent but they do have a general behavior so feel free to share your experience in this analytical post. 1: How long did it take for them to write the first message? 2: What was the first message they wrote? 3: In general how long did they take to reply to your messages? 4: When did they start to flirt for example the second day of talking or after a week etc? 5: If you did not reply to one of their message what did they do? 6: If you took long time to reply to their messages what did they do? 7: When did they ask you out for a date the first time? was it after two days of talking a week etc? 8: What were the topics ...Read more

This is something that is rarely talked about but how do they behave in the beginning when they just getting to know you. I know all people are diffrent but they do have a general behavior so feel free to share your experience in this analytical post.

1: How long did it take for them to write the first message?

2: What was the first message they wrote?

3: In general how long did they take to reply to your messages?

4: When did they start to flirt for example the second day of talking or after a week etc?

5: If you did not reply to one of their message what did they do?

6: If you took long time to reply to their messages what did they do?

7: When did they ask you out for a date the first time? was it after two days of talking a week etc?

8: What were the topics they talked to you about in the beginning?

9: Did they use alot of emojis when texting and wich ones were the most common?

10:  How many messages did they write per day in general? Did they try to talk as much as possible (so they be on your mind all day) or as little as possible (to be mysterious and interesting)?

11: If you told them you arent interested or dont want to talk what did they do?

12: Did they use alot of memes or send alot of photos when texting?

13: After the first or second date how long did it take for them to message you again? and whit did they write?

14: At what point did they start to be rude to you? After one week of talking or a few days etc? And after you got upset did they apoligise for their behavior?

15: How long did it take until they tried to speak in microphone/webcam with you?

16: What did they do if you refused to speak in microphone or webcam?

17: When you had a date did they show up on time or were they late?

18: Did they pay for the date or split the bill?

19: Did they try to kiss/make out at the first or second, or third date?

20: What did they do if you refuse to kiss/make out?

21: What did they do if you canceled a date or said you dont feel to go on a date?

 

 

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Worried sister
Worried sister

Hi everyone, so my sister has just announced her engagement to Buddy. Who she met in Hurghada in April. He lives in Cairo, all she has done since she met him is send him parcels with protein powder and creams for family members, and God knows what else. She also is there now and taken him loads over. I fear she is being used. But according to her he is not interested in coming to the UK so it’s real!!!  First of all I wanted to put this out there to see if anyone else knows him, but also for advice of how to make her see sense even though I doubt we can as love is blind so they say!!!

Hi everyone, so my sister has just announced her engagement to Buddy. Who she met in Hurghada in April. He lives in Cairo, all she has done since she met him is send him parcels with protein powder and creams for family members, and God knows what else. She also is there now and taken him loads over. I fear she is being used. But according to her he is not interested in coming to the UK so it’s real!!!  First of all I wanted to put this out there to see if anyone else knows him, but also for advice of how to make her see sense even though I doubt we can as love is blind so they say!!!

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Hello everyone, I need to get something off my chest. It’s hard to explain how I feel to someone who doesn’t know about Tunisian men, but I’m sure you get it. I’ll skip the emotional details and keep it concise. I’m from Germany and about two weeks ago, I spontaneously traveled to Tunisia with my mother. We were basically the last guests before the hotel closed for the season. There were barely any other guests, and all were much older than me. So, I started spending time with the guys from the animation team. They knew from the start that, as a student, I didn’t have money, so I ruled out the idea that they spent time with me for financial reasons. I found one of them attractive; we were the same age, we talked a lot, and there was a connection. I didn’t tell him that, but maybe he sensed ...Read more

Hello everyone, I need to get something off my chest. It’s hard to explain how I feel to someone who doesn’t know about Tunisian men, but I’m sure you get it. I’ll skip the emotional details and keep it concise.

I’m from Germany and about two weeks ago, I spontaneously traveled to Tunisia with my mother. We were basically the last guests before the hotel closed for the season. There were barely any other guests, and all were much older than me. So, I started spending time with the guys from the animation team. They knew from the start that, as a student, I didn’t have money, so I ruled out the idea that they spent time with me for financial reasons. I found one of them attractive; we were the same age, we talked a lot, and there was a connection. I didn’t tell him that, but maybe he sensed it because soon after, he mentioned feeling a strong connection with me, blah blah. Foolishly, I wanted to believe it, since I liked him. But my gut feeling—or rather, my rational mind—told me early on to keep my distance. He was consistent in showing affection, but my skepticism kept making me pull back. Then he would be sweet again, making me doubt my caution.

It all came to a head when I told him I couldn’t marry him if that was his intention. Understandably, he was hurt by that, but in hindsight, it revealed more of his true self. By the way, I didn’t allow any physical intimacy, which he respected, so I didn’t feel pressured by him.

We left around the same time, said our goodbyes, and I messaged him again about the marriage topic, apologizing if I had hurt him. Shortly after, he blocked me. I was completely confused, and everything just felt baffling. I desperately needed some answers, so I created a new account to check up on him (yes, I know, not the best move). I figured that his friends, whom I also met and followed online, wouldn’t be honest with me. I found out that he’s now with another German woman, and she’s visiting him in his home country. It’s obviously painful, but also somewhat reassuring that my instincts were right—I just didn’t want to trust them. He hasn’t been following her for long, so she must be someone from the current season; she was there in August. He knew her before pretending with me. In the end, she was probably just the one who played along better. His followers and following list are full of European women. I also noticed that his follower count often goes up and down, which suggests he blocks or gets blocked frequently. And one more thing worth mentioning: the only female member of the animation team, who unfortunately spoke very little English, once told me he was a cheater, and he overheard it. I brushed it off because I didn’t want to create an awkward situation. Well, she was probably trying to warn me.

Two of the other guys on the animation team both recently got engaged to two Polish friends just before I arrived—funny enough.

I’m now wondering if I should write to his current girlfriend to warn her to be cautious or reach out to the female team member to ask what she meant by calling him a cheater. Or maybe I should just try to move on, even though it’s hard.

One more thing that makes this situation awkward: while I was there, his boss offered me a summer job as a guest liaison for German visitors, which I’d like to do during my summer break. The pay isn’t great compared to Germany, but I’d live by the beach for two months for free and improve my French skills. I’m worried that if I see him there, he might make things difficult for me. But who knows, he might be in Germany by then lol.

Long story, I know. I’d appreciate some feedback.

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  1. Girl. Dont go back to Tunisia ever. You can have plenty if jobs by thr beach in France, you dont need Tunisia. They will treat you bad and they will not get you paid for so many reasons. This is my advice to you. And you are right, wr are just paper to them. I married one, im pregnant now and he lefRead more

    Girl. Dont go back to Tunisia ever. You can have plenty if jobs by thr beach in France, you dont need Tunisia. They will treat you bad and they will not get you paid for so many reasons. This is my advice to you. And you are right, wr are just paper to them. I married one, im pregnant now and he left me after one month cause i didnt agree to pay lawyer for his visa … imagine the lenghth they go for a visa that will provide minimum wage in Europe anyway… and they destfoy all those women lives and even kids just cause they dream about a place that learned the lessons about immigrants anyway.

     

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Hello !   I’d like to share some of my story that still leaves me with tears and doubts, even if I think this person has reorientated his strategy to get “a better life” and western people are now safe with him. If anyone has experienced anything with this person, please let me know. I hope to stop doubting with testimonies coming from another human being, as I can’t reach his scottish ex A.Z.S.   His name is Yossri (L)A****, originated from EL KRIB (close to KEF), then MANOUBA now living in BORJ CEDRIA (TUNIS). He has been working as an animator in a few hotels in HAMMAMET, shortly DJERBA and SOUSSE (EL KANTAOUI) areas, including CARRIBEAN WORLD and MARHABA PALACE, and been refered as DINO and LARRY. He’s won a few dance contests, included on a national level (true).   I met him on a Mother-Daughter 2 weeks trip to MARHABA, that is like home to ...Read more

Hello !

 

I’d like to share some of my story that still leaves me with tears and doubts, even if I think this person has reorientated his strategy to get “a better life” and western people are now safe with him.

If anyone has experienced anything with this person, please let me know. I hope to stop doubting with testimonies coming from another human being, as I can’t reach his scottish ex A.Z.S.

 

His name is Yossri (L)A****, originated from EL KRIB (close to KEF), then MANOUBA now living in BORJ CEDRIA (TUNIS). He has been working as an animator in a few hotels in HAMMAMET, shortly DJERBA and SOUSSE (EL KANTAOUI) areas, including CARRIBEAN WORLD and MARHABA PALACE, and been refered as DINO and LARRY. He’s won a few dance contests, included on a national level (true).

 

I met him on a Mother-Daughter 2 weeks trip to MARHABA, that is like home to me, last November.

He was new and tried to jump on me the very 1st minutes I appeared, but I sent him to “animate” my Mother saying that I was not interested to interact with anyone.

I know the animation team technique to reach the children that don’t care about them is often to go through the parents, as I witnessed it a 100 times with Midou and Momo at Marhaba, though I never ever thought about deep manipulation…

 

My very active mom participated everything with everyone, and she deeply bonded with Yossri. She got told hard stories, told me 10 times we were similar people but he was suffering and I should help him.

I stopped ignoring him 3 days before departure, and recieved a big bag of violence stories and tears, but also some values (some related to my own faith) and dreams that deeply spoke to me. Back then I already had been told by him that he’d been expecting to meet a person like me his whole life, that – just like me – he usually doesn’t get involved with people (that are mostly mean and selfish), and that he had observed me every day and liked me through my polite but distant attitude more and more each day. We shared a lot, we left him (behind his back as he said he wanted nothing from anyone) all the dinar we had as his life was tough, and after departure I felt like I had left my twin brother, that my soul was leaving behind almost half of it… Though, he was stressed and reluctant about his SM, and made a big cleanup before adding me, saying it had created useless pb with his ex and despite I told him I was not considering anything… yet though.

 

I started getting love bombed very quickly, and to cry aswell as he was asking me to consider a closer relationship. The level of empathy and fear to touch a hair of a delicate person who had gone through a lot was high. I had my experience too and told him openly I knew he had some personal work to do to recover or we would be at risk of even losing the nice bond we had.

 

We spoke for weeks, and my feelings were growing each day in his reassuring, kind and mature words. So, being asked each day, and honestly curious and missing him physically like 2 peas in a pod, I agreed to visit for the beggining of the year and booked a plane ticket, a few days of rest in the hotel, and left him in charge of an appartement for the rest of the days to TALK AND LIVE “LIKE A COUPLE WITHOUT BREAKING THE PHYSICAL DISTANCE” BEFORE BEING SURE, as he could not enter a guest room or being noticed as he had been seen with his ex previously and got in trouble. He asked his family and foreign friends to lend or give him the money he did not have to complete the payment, and asked from me only some help with groceries.

He was not happy about the hotel booking, saying that it would be painful to be apart, that he could not accept some guys trying to hit on me like some do, blabla.

 

What happened then : although I told him I needed time to decide, he went to airport with his brother with a big bouquet, he decorated my room with flowers, gifts, and ILY balloons with the complicity of reception (is that how you are discreet ?) and litteraly jumped on me once in… I told him I was not ready, he did not stop. So… after some minutes, I started crying a lot. We spoke and, in the meantime and un like what he said on the 1st talks, I actually made him confess that he had cheated once on his “beloved” (only heard sh** on her) ex, and that that ex story that had ages but he could not recover from when we met actually only had weeks……

I confronted everything, he apologized saying he was unexperienced and needing more guidance (I have more experience indeed), that he would not lie anymore, and then I’ve been very sick in bed for the rest of the stay.

In the meantime, seing my sad eyes, my tunisian mom who was worried for me confessed she had been told (but could not guarantee as it was not her eyes), that he had been seen at 6 am coming out of an elder room 2 weeks before we met the 1st time. I knew some women were regularly asking for sex against money, but he said he had always refused. She wanted me to keep my eyes open.

The rest of the stay, some things were cute, but at some point he did not respect my sleep cause he wanted more attention or to do things (I could not), and I got very angry. His “nice and kind” attitude started to drastically switch from there.

I left very heart broken and guilted, but still in a fog…

 

The blabla bonding speech kept on and on, and we organised a second trip to make sure what to do. This time I payed more, and chose a 2 bedrooms flat. To sum up, I felt smashed and bad treated, he pretended – as a hypersensitive like me – he was still in shock from the last time. Also the family who had agreed on the process tried to pressure me, despite the nice attentions. I left with the feeling that something was definitely off (out of the experience together). Maybe because I was not agreeing on the my house is your house plan (he’s building but missing funds and wanted to share expenses on the future, my plan was to buy my own for us aswell and live in the countryside if we’d marry) ??

 

At the same time, he completed exams to become a state agent and finally get a valuable job (as animators have no real long contracts fyi…). Despite his love blabla still going on, I noticed he became very materialistic and started to follow universities of Medecine in Tunisia. I also found out things happened the same with his ex, for instance he used a lot of observation and talked to her the last days on the 1st trip… but he was claiming to have social phobia…

 

It took me some weeks to understand the plot, and that he was changing his plans… One evening, it came quite clear, and I investigated his accounts. I found out he was following manipulation pages, and followed the likes. 1st of all, as an hypersensitive, let me tell you someone like me cannot stand even to listen to them and even less to watch, and that all those techniques he had use on both my Mother and me.

I told him to stop talking to me, he accused me of having paranoia and told the same to my mom. She warned me and I blocked all the communication canals, telling him that I’d send him to the Police if he kept botheting me or her… and, barely 3 days after…. me still crying a lot from the shock…. he was following at least 10 profiles of young female tunisian (that he said he hated of course, because interested…) doctors. I’ve always heard women were fast, but discribing himself as a higly sensitive person with social phobia ?!?!?

 

I am still devastated even I really see the good side : I saved my a**. I still dont know how to mourn and come back properly from – I guess – a mirage…. My mom neither :(.

 

Please, dont throw me stones. I know it’s my mistake and I have been naive, with the help of my mom only at the beggining.

 

Wish you all the Best…

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Hi everybody! My friend has fallen hard for a Tunisian man, to the point where she has married him and managed to get him a visa to live in the UK with her, where he is living now! Her family and friends are all worried and most don’t speak to her anymore. She borrowed money from all of us to help him ‘through his sickness’ while he was in Tunisia, of course, there is no proof he was ever sick or in hospital. Does anyone know him? His name is Nizar Dkhili he used to work as head entertainer in the Hotel Liberty in Monastir. Apparently, he was married to a Russian woman around 2019 but she disappeared. Any help will be appreciated! thank you! https://www.facebook.com/nizar.dkhili.9

Hi everybody!

My friend has fallen hard for a Tunisian man, to the point where she has married him and managed to get him a visa to live in the UK with her, where he is living now! Her family and friends are all worried and most don’t speak to her anymore. She borrowed money from all of us to help him ‘through his sickness’ while he was in Tunisia, of course, there is no proof he was ever sick or in hospital.

Does anyone know him? His name is Nizar Dkhili he used to work as head entertainer in the Hotel Liberty in Monastir. Apparently, he was married to a Russian woman around 2019 but she disappeared.

Any help will be appreciated! thank you!

https://www.facebook.com/nizar.dkhili.9

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