But you can’t be sure what the Tunisian thinks in 10 years 

As is often the case with a Tunisian’s great love for a Polish woman, he and his family were not bothered by the age difference – he was 13 years younger – I was enchanted by the family and his assurances that he loved me and would always be with me, so I agreed to get married after 3 years of relationship.

Then a lot of paperwork and visa arrangements. Surprisingly, I got the visa the first time. Tears of happiness for him and his family and his arrival to Poland. Super nice, obliging, helpful, cleans, cooks, waits for 1st residence card. I still take care of the house and pay the bills because I don’t work. Finally, the desired residence card, first job, first salary and what?… It turns out that he has no intention of contributing to the bills because I earn more and besides, other Tunisians live here and do not pay either because their wives support them. Additionally, my sister calls me with a complaint and says how can I ask him for money when he has less than me… He spent everything on himself, the car, clothes, shoes.

He was already working with a residence card, always tired, helping only occasionally, having sex less and less often and lying in bed with his phone in his hand all the time. Through my own means, I found out that he was involved in a Polish-Tunisian group and met a woman there. After an argument about him not helping me and just lying there with his phone, and that I had the right to be tired too, he packed his things and moved out. Contact with a woman from the group resulted in an overnight stay in a hotel in Warsaw. He wasn’t tired for that 

I forgave him… because the first residence card expired in a month, I felt sorry for him because he came for me and I would leave him without any papers. Another card and more lies… writing to women that he lives alone and works, asking for meetings. When I shouted it in his face that this is not the way to do it, this is not Tunisia, that wives have nothing to say when a man has mistresses, he said that I was limiting him, that I wanted to subordinate him, that he was younger and that’s not why he sacrificed himself youth for me to command him. He came here to work and live well. That the consul gave him the visa, not me  That everyone knows what this marriage is for, no one in Tunisia takes an older wife, only a young one, and he sacrificed his youth so that he could live happily and do what he wants, and I have to agree to it because I have a young one husband . That if I loved him, I would support him and help him start a company because he doesn’t want to work for someone all his life. It’s a shame in Tunisia when you work for someone else and not on your own. And if I want to divorce him and block his next residence card, he will say that I married him only for sex.

That time has come… the application for a third residence card has been sent by him and the divorce is pending…

I don’t know what he’s thinking… he doesn’t live with me, but he counts on the card, he writes messages saying that he doesn’t love me, that he can have anyone because many women write to him. That he will find a woman who respects him and will be happy because with me there are only problems.

That’s all the Tunisian love  and for a long time because he could have escaped after the first card