I am a mother of 3 children and I have lived within arabic culture for 30 years in London I reverted to Islam 28 years ago and then I married my first husband from Iraq who passed away. We had a daughter together. That’s a little about my back ground just so that you get I understand that world and have lived in it for a long time.
In 2017 a tunisian man added me on fb now I have adds and messages constantly from arabic men Asian men African men I ignore them usually. But this guy had he was Europeon on his profile and the day I accepted his friend request I was feeling very depressed and I guess I thought I’d distract myself with someone to talk to
We chatted a lot for a few.days he told me he lived in tunisia but often travelled back and forth to France and his dream was to live in Italy. So I believed that of course why not. We began speaking daily and he would call me a lot then he would.tell me stories of his life his family 4 monthes down the line I started to like him a lot.
He asked me if I would come one day to visit him and his family he said they had 2 houses and me and my kids could stay in 1 and so on. He said they had swimming pools where he lived places to go etc etc so I thought why not go for a holiday with the kids and meet them etc. But at the same time I wasn’t taking it so seriously until he went and had 2 tattoos done
One tattoo was my name and the day we met and the 2nd one was my face. So once he had the tattoos done I felt obliged to go to tunisia.
So in July 2017 me and my kids went to tunisia
He met us at the airport and took us in a mini bus back to his village (he wasn’t driving) when we arrived it was a tiny village called Bahra near to a place called Le Kef
His family were there accommodating and kind he had a twin sister his mum his brother and his wife who lived above them and his other brother and his wife who were visiting from.france it seemed normal.
After 3 or 4 days I asked him when we was leaving to go to the other house near the pools etc and he just kept fobbing me off. It was boring for the kids nothing to do and also for me so I was getting agitated
Anyway we spent the summer in tunisia after realising he had a lied a lot out of shame we ended up going to a hotel in kef and then travelling to mahdia and so on.
I thought i had feelinsg for him and he asked me to marry him we hadn’t kissed or slept together he respected my rules etc so I said yes
I came back to London and made plans to fly back in October which I did and we got married.
Then it started asking for money not a lot £20 here and there to help him and I flew back again in Jan 2018 and again July 2018.
During the time periods he was becoming more greedy asking for £30 per week and always complaining about his life asking for shoes and clothes not a lot but still. He would then ask me when he could come here and talk about his dream how he would work and so on. He never worked in tunisia he had a small Internet cafe but he sold it as it wasn’t making a lot of money and he needed money.
In July 2018 he showed me his true colours when he wouldn’t get his own way he would walk off and leave me or one time he broke a hotel room mirror and another time he grabbed me and hit me in the car and the driver had a go at him. That was when I knew I wouldn’t go there again.
So once back in UK we started arguing a lot and I was very depressed he had caused me so many problems isolating me from.friends etc I was alone. Then my mum had a stroke and got diagnosed with breast cancer which is where I expected some support from him instead he was pressuring me to make the visa and demanding I do it etc. When I told him I wasn’t ready he got his sister to message me asking me if I was serious about him or not as it seemed I wasn’t. No one cared about what was happening with my mum and I knew then I was not going to bring him here
But it still took time to wean myself off of him I had grown use to the constant communication even if had become narcissistic I was having to learn my lesson and walk away. Throughout covid he would message sometimes saying hi how are u and we would have limited conversation but we were still friends on fb etc
Then one day he said that he wanted me to come and live there with him and make a new start etc and I could work he could work and so on. I considered it for a short time but reality was I had grown away from him and was rebuilding myself. I said no and it was over
I used to send bags of clothes for some of the kids and bits and pieces for the mum from.time 2 time so there was always a thread between me and them but not me and him. He had another tattoo with a woman called Valarie on it so that meant he had a new victim but was still married to me
Rolling forward to February 2023 he called me which I found weird as we hadn’t spoken in a long time and low and behold he was here in UK he was standing near my home and wanted to say hi. I was shocked of course I went to meet him and said hi he wa staying in a hostel near me. So for around 8 days I was having brief meetings I’d cook food and drop it to him and then he started asking for money so I said no. I said u came here u sort ur own self out. He then claimed asylum saying he is gay and was moved out of London to a hotel. I felt relieved. From time 2 time he would message hi from new numbers as I would block him.

During the period from September 2022 and now I had met another Tunisian man who is the complete opposite of my ex. He is established has his own home buisness pays for everything kind loving my best friend and my love all rolled into one. We couldn’t plan to marry as I was still married. So he helped me to do the divorce and in January 2024 I am finally free from.him.
I haven’t gone into huge details as it hurts some of the things he would say and do. But the bottom line was he manipulated me and thought I would bring him here he says no he loved me and wanted a future with me until now he insists that’s how it was. Who knows I don’t believe him. When we was together he let me have his phone and I read tons of messages between him and other women over the years where he was obviously fishing for the right one he had taken money and done sex chats etc with them

The new man is amazing and his whole family are amazing we plan to get married at the end of this year and I will go and live there with him he doesn’t want to leave tunisia he has everything he needs there and I am happy to live there.
I will post a picture of The Rat on this post I used to message women he hurt from.his profile apologising to them for his behaviour
Sorry its long but it would be longer if I went Into detail.
Take care and always keep your wits about you

Pictures added are of him in uk his name is K****l S***i or K****l R****i