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I would like some advice please!

Hi all. Although this isn’t a love rat exposed post I would love some advice. I will try to keep this as brief as possible…
My sister recently finished with a man from Hammamet. She met him in Sept of last year, during a joint holiday with her friend (who was going out there to see her Tunisian boyfriend). Initially, my Sister was a bit reluctant as she wasn’t looking for anyone at the time etc but ended up falling for this man. He introduced her to his Mum & sisters, who he lives with, about 2 days after meeting. He was saying he wants to marry her very soon after meeting. She returned to the UK and were in touch constantly. She then flew back out on her own last Nov to see him. About a month ago, she told him she needed a break from him the constant video calls, messages, “love bombing”, was becoming too much. During this time he had threatened tl harm himself because of her threats to end things and he even ended up sending me photos on FB of him hooked up to a IV machine apparently in hospital from cutting his wrists. He also used to say how much his mum loves my sister like a daughter and she would message my sister to say how sad this man was etc. I don’t know if it was through guilt or genuine love, but my sister realised she still loved him and they resumed the (long distance) relationship.
Last week, she went out for drinks for a work friend’s leaving do and apparently he was bombarding her with calls and wasnt happy about it (apparently he has always been this way, very jealous about her having male work friends etc), and extremely possessive. She acknowledges that this is not the norm culturally in Tunisia to be going out as a woman drinking etc and also with him being Muslim, but she has realised that thinking into the future things will not work out and she is being pragmatic this time around rather than following her heart.
I guess what I am looking for is some advice on how to comfort her. This man does seem very lovely, and I do feel sad for my sister as she genuinely did care and love him. He has no kids nor does she and I think that was a nice thought for her too. Apparently he has never asked for any financial help either which normally sets off a dozen alarm bells. Does she really have a future with him or does she need to just cut things off for good?

Thanks for reading if you got this far! X

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