Hay all, I am writing anonymous as it’s still not time to tell my stroy and believe me you can write a best seller out of it.
First of all I want you to know that you should not be ashamed to tell your story openly. You are not stupid and you are not desperate. They just know how to get under your skin and tell you all you want to hear and all attention any woman would like so much so she can feel loved.
Secondly, if you are married in Tunsia you have so many rights probably you are not aware of and you should not be affraid to apply for what is yours by law. I am still understanding the system but it works believe me you just need a good lawyer in court cases (which is the tricky part). Please do not fall in the trups of your rat husbands that you will never win here, you don’t know the language, the law is in their favor, etc. This is all lies to scare you. I see it working for me better than it would work in Europe!
Thirdly, if you spend big amounts on your boyfriends and husbands and I mean ten of thousands of euros, keep all documents, make sure all is through bank transfers and always write the reason for sending the money. This is accepted in court as well as any audio and video recordings, translated in arabic and legalized in Tunisia, messages also with threaths and demands. (If someone needs more info on this I could help if the admins allowed it of course).
Forthlty, in all cases of fraud you can file for crimal case, get protection orders, and all you need is solid prove, so give yourself time even if you know he is a rat and get all you need before deciding to file for criminal/divorce case. For cheating the situation is a bit different all this will not do good, you need to get him in bed actually doing it but even a recording can help to get a divorce on the bases of caused damage so he will be obliged to pay some more money apart from alimony and expenses for the court case you made.
Finally, please do not give up, don’t be affraid and go and get them in the corner. Here they will put them in prison very easily just as a measure of clearing their mind and putting some sense to their actions, they just need someone to file a case and have sensible evidence. Noone likes the rats in the police and courts.
I am going through hell the last 6 months, living in Tunisia all alone, not speaking Arabic and yet I see the results now and I will show HIM and all the rats around here they can’t just play with people’s life like we mean nothing.
If the admins think it’s a good idea I can help other women going through that hell and at least explain what they can do here.
This is the only way to beat them and show them we are clever and stronger than them.