No group is ever going to be 100% safe, but by working all together we can try and make it as safe as possible. We do a lot work behind the scenes, which can be very time consuming. Everyone knows that rat groupies exists, but the pattern we have noticed is not so much the rat groupies, but actual posters who post a rat and give all the bravado that “hes no longer in my life, keep away from him ladies” the poster is still in contact with him. We always say, dont post your story until your ready and you are no longer with him, as the onus is on the poster if he finds out, not us. This leads me on to share my personal annoyance about the deleted posts, if a guy finds out hes been posted, its admins and mods that get it in the neck, which is unfair. Those guys that have been posted and and then contacted the OP, why not ask him who told him, tell him if he tells you (with proof) that your try and get the post deleted. You allow them to still control you and dictate everything, even though apparently they are no longer in contact.

As admins and mods we will never reveal an identity, and believe me we have covered for you ladies a lot more than you would ever know. We are here to warn women against rats, and lets get the stories and names out there, but please only post if your 100% sure and comfortable with it, and you really have finished your relationship with him 😁