I’ve been asked to copy what i wrote on another post plus a little bit more added to it…it is a very long post!

Unfortunately, everything is not as black and white as you see it.
I’ll pick up on some points you made – the older men and younger women, yes we see them around us, they are ridiculed and frowned upon, not just the man but also the women, 95% of these men are quite wealthy, they are happy to be a sugar daddy and have a trophy woman on his arm, they are both receiving benefits from each other.
Yes, of course women want to hear compliments and their is nothing wrong with that, but when you have a huge age gap, surely the question is, why is he telling me im beautiful and the local men from my town aren’t flocking around me so why is a young lothario giving me attention , surely at that point alarm bells should start to ring. Alot of us have witnessed the older mature lady lapping up the attention from the young Tunisian, so it becomes again they are both benefiting.
Yes, women have been used and abused, some have lost a lot, including their lives, which it absolutely heartbreaking., its those people that were victims. Not everyone whose had a romance with a Tunisian is a victim, the word is used to often.
People need to take some responsibility for what has happened, they were never forced to send money, gifts, pay for the visas etc.
You may think my words are harsh, but im realistic, i will give empathy where empathy is due, but i will never sugarcoat my words to appease others . These are grown up women who should enter these relationships with eyes wide open.
If a young Tunisian is showing you attention and telling you beautiful words and you want some fun, go for it, but keep the rose tinted glasses off.
We could discuss the women that buy these men, this is something that isn’t discussed enough.
There are two sides to every story and that is something to bare in mind.
We are not a support group per say, but we are a group that shows red flags and a place where people can come and share their stories and ask for help and advice. A lot more goes on behind the scenes of this group than many realise.

These men are not poor nor live in poverty, they may not live to standard some are used to living, but, they will never go hungry or thirsty. The homeless you see on your streets every day, the mum trying to feed her kids living off benefits is living in poverty, were seeing it daily on our tv the people starving in Gaza, that is poverty not these young guys. Dont be fooled and taken in by this. Women are throwing money at them, if someone was offering to buy me gifts, would I refuse?

Lets talk about the women who like to hunt, it may sound weird, but its true. The older lady who hunts down young Tunisian men, they befriended them on social media, flirt with them, show them videos of everything they have, will visit them, will sleep with them and then move on to the next man and do this all throughout the summer months, back and forth to tunisia meeting up with a different man each time why is this never discussed?

The women that know they are being used but just like those old men who like a trophy girl on his arm, these women want want a young man on theirs. They know they are buying attention and sex and they dont care, until he no longer wants to be involved with them and he tries to finish the relationship and the women turns abusive, then joins a group to play the victim, you hear one side of the story and take it as fact.

There is the culture and religious differences that never get talked about enough, but thats for another post.

We could tell you stories from both sides that would make you cringe (with facts) these are the type of stories some could do with being known and read by everyone, which leads me back to the start of this post – not everything is as black and white as it seems.