This man is currently living in northern Ireland
He has citizenship here .
He was married before to a uk woman that brought him here he always said they break up because she couldn’t have kids and she breakup with him as she thought it wasn’t fair on him .
Don’t know I’d that’s true or not
I was with him 18mths but was constantly in debt over him
Met him first over a year ago we met on a dating app he was a nice person I thought we met and we just clicked on first date we planned a weekend away together after us been talking for over 4 months before we left he made up a drama that his sister had been in a really big car accident over in tunisia I tryed to help him by paying for the weekend away so he could semd money over to tunisia for treatment for his sister .
The wekend went great only I paid for all food drink hotel on last day he begged me to help himto pay his bills that he had sent so much money to his family he had nothing left I’m a soft touch I gave him money .
So things continued for some months then apparently he had to pay for hospital bills his sisters medication then apparently his sister died he wanted to pay for the funeral and flight to be there then he had no money when he came back for food and essentials I helped him again .
I’m a single mum to two sons times is hard I was really struggling but he didn’t care only that I needed to help him I did as much as I could .
We agreed we get marry this year I had paid for accomadation and car rental but then I told him we need to cancel because I just couldn’t do all and I became ill so we agreed to pay to pay the extra fees to keep the property until next year
Then he had to tax his car
His car failed mot he had to buy new wheels
Then he had a second trip to pay for to tunisia apparently not his mum was ill I helped him again as much as I could he came back home I broke up with him we didn’t talk for a while I told him I couldn’t marry him this year as my son just passed his driving test and I needed to help him also I’m recovering from cancer and income not great he said he wait until he thus week said that there needed to be fees for 1000 pounds for property and car to keep our date until next year I paid it how stupid was I I believed him then he said he had argument with his dad and family that I’m not to be believed I told him you are angry person you need to calm down in which he replied don’t ever call me an angry person the is so insulting I told him that he Is not a man of his word he promised he would stay by while i get the cancer treatment that my health comes first and then chamged in his reply he answered are you saying I’m not a man now I said no but anything I said he didn’t want to know he said he had to choose between me and his family and as I won’t agree to marry this year he needs to move on I said I’m sorry I over you but I can’t financially do it this year he said only option is if I agree to what he says then we can continue with our relationship I thought about and really I did not feel love from him not supported he clearly only wanted the money for this wedding I’m sure realistically in my mind he aa using me for more money so he could pay for more holidays to his family and they would be no wedding no nothing .
I told him no he said your choice we brokeup and that’s that but I feel broken but relevant as in 1 year he had already got at least 9000 pounds from me and he was living the high life style of many trips to tunisia and me scraping for to get to money to together to survive
He has lived in Ireland over 8 years and has not got one friend only a friend from tunisia I aways thought that was strange I know I was stupid but now that I broke up with him I feel I got away and I’m free again this man is fake fake love fake everything
Promises the world and get nothing in return.

I joined this page because my mission is to honey trap these love rats. I recently went on a trip and had 4 of these men “fall in love” with me after only a day! I just wish women would wake up. They don’t love you! They’re using you!

I know some members on here have said that very often the love rats families are in on the scam.But do you think even though my rat told me he had separated from his wife and the very fact I’d had contact with her and she had told me awful things he’d done to her that she would be still with him and in on the act.They both used to slag each other off but could this be the act they’re both performing to get my sympathy.

There is a guy who is living here in UK from Tunisia he came on a paid for visa and claimed asylum he was declined so he is on the prowl looking for a woman to marry to stay here he also uses women for money and sex and hides behind “Mr Nice Guy I’m in Love ” his name is Ahmed

I am a mother of 3 children and I have lived within arabic culture for 30 years in London I reverted to Islam 28 years ago and then I married my first husband from Iraq who passed away. We had a daughter together. That’s a little about my back ground just so that you get I understand that world and have lived in it for a long time.
In 2017 a tunisian man added me on fb now I have adds and messages constantly from arabic men Asian men African men I ignore them usually. But this guy had he was Europeon on his profile and the day I accepted his friend request I was feeling very depressed and I guess I thought I’d distract myself with someone to talk to
We chatted a lot for a few.days he told me he lived in tunisia but often travelled back and forth to France and his dream was to live in Italy. So I believed that of course why not. We began speaking daily and he would call me a lot then he would.tell me stories of his life his family 4 monthes down the line I started to like him a lot.
He asked me if I would come one day to visit him and his family he said they had 2 houses and me and my kids could stay in 1 and so on. He said they had swimming pools where he lived places to go etc etc so I thought why not go for a holiday with the kids and meet them etc. But at the same time I wasn’t taking it so seriously until he went and had 2 tattoos done
One tattoo was my name and the day we met and the 2nd one was my face. So once he had the tattoos done I felt obliged to go to tunisia.
So in July 2017 me and my kids went to tunisia
He met us at the airport and took us in a mini bus back to his village (he wasn’t driving) when we arrived it was a tiny village called Bahra near to a place called Le Kef
His family were there accommodating and kind he had a twin sister his mum his brother and his wife who lived above them and his other brother and his wife who were visiting from.france it seemed normal.
After 3 or 4 days I asked him when we was leaving to go to the other house near the pools etc and he just kept fobbing me off. It was boring for the kids nothing to do and also for me so I was getting agitated
Anyway we spent the summer in tunisia after realising he had a lied a lot out of shame we ended up going to a hotel in kef and then travelling to mahdia and so on.
I thought i had feelinsg for him and he asked me to marry him we hadn’t kissed or slept together he respected my rules etc so I said yes
I came back to London and made plans to fly back in October which I did and we got married.
Then it started asking for money not a lot £20 here and there to help him and I flew back again in Jan 2018 and again July 2018.
During the time periods he was becoming more greedy asking for £30 per week and always complaining about his life asking for shoes and clothes not a lot but still. He would then ask me when he could come here and talk about his dream how he would work and so on. He never worked in tunisia he had a small Internet cafe but he sold it as it wasn’t making a lot of money and he needed money.
In July 2018 he showed me his true colours when he wouldn’t get his own way he would walk off and leave me or one time he broke a hotel room mirror and another time he grabbed me and hit me in the car and the driver had a go at him. That was when I knew I wouldn’t go there again.
So once back in UK we started arguing a lot and I was very depressed he had caused me so many problems isolating me from.friends etc I was alone. Then my mum had a stroke and got diagnosed with breast cancer which is where I expected some support from him instead he was pressuring me to make the visa and demanding I do it etc. When I told him I wasn’t ready he got his sister to message me asking me if I was serious about him or not as it seemed I wasn’t. No one cared about what was happening with my mum and I knew then I was not going to bring him here
But it still took time to wean myself off of him I had grown use to the constant communication even if had become narcissistic I was having to learn my lesson and walk away. Throughout covid he would message sometimes saying hi how are u and we would have limited conversation but we were still friends on fb etc
Then one day he said that he wanted me to come and live there with him and make a new start etc and I could work he could work and so on. I considered it for a short time but reality was I had grown away from him and was rebuilding myself. I said no and it was over
I used to send bags of clothes for some of the kids and bits and pieces for the mum from.time 2 time so there was always a thread between me and them but not me and him. He had another tattoo with a woman called Valarie on it so that meant he had a new victim but was still married to me
Rolling forward to February 2023 he called me which I found weird as we hadn’t spoken in a long time and low and behold he was here in UK he was standing near my home and wanted to say hi. I was shocked of course I went to meet him and said hi he wa staying in a hostel near me. So for around 8 days I was having brief meetings I’d cook food and drop it to him and then he started asking for money so I said no. I said u came here u sort ur own self out. He then claimed asylum saying he is gay and was moved out of London to a hotel. I felt relieved. From time 2 time he would message hi from new numbers as I would block him.

During the period from September 2022 and now I had met another Tunisian man who is the complete opposite of my ex. He is established has his own home buisness pays for everything kind loving my best friend and my love all rolled into one. We couldn’t plan to marry as I was still married. So he helped me to do the divorce and in January 2024 I am finally free from.him.
I haven’t gone into huge details as it hurts some of the things he would say and do. But the bottom line was he manipulated me and thought I would bring him here he says no he loved me and wanted a future with me until now he insists that’s how it was. Who knows I don’t believe him. When we was together he let me have his phone and I read tons of messages between him and other women over the years where he was obviously fishing for the right one he had taken money and done sex chats etc with them

The new man is amazing and his whole family are amazing we plan to get married at the end of this year and I will go and live there with him he doesn’t want to leave tunisia he has everything he needs there and I am happy to live there.
I will post a picture of The Rat on this post I used to message women he hurt from.his profile apologising to them for his behaviour
Sorry its long but it would be longer if I went Into detail.
Take care and always keep your wits about you

Pictures added are of him in uk his name is K****l S***i or K****l R****i

I am one of those silly older women.who got involved with a Tunisian many years younger than me it went on for seven and half years , yes I sent money and gifts and my friends tried to warn me , but reading Lucy Faulkners comments makes you realise how stupid I’ve been and her words are fact and truth ,thankyou for really opening my eyes.

I’ve been asked to copy what i wrote on another post plus a little bit more added to it…it is a very long post!

Unfortunately, everything is not as black and white as you see it.
I’ll pick up on some points you made – the older men and younger women, yes we see them around us, they are ridiculed and frowned upon, not just the man but also the women, 95% of these men are quite wealthy, they are happy to be a sugar daddy and have a trophy woman on his arm, they are both receiving benefits from each other.
Yes, of course women want to hear compliments and their is nothing wrong with that, but when you have a huge age gap, surely the question is, why is he telling me im beautiful and the local men from my town aren’t flocking around me so why is a young lothario giving me attention , surely at that point alarm bells should start to ring. Alot of us have witnessed the older mature lady lapping up the attention from the young Tunisian, so it becomes again they are both benefiting.
Yes, women have been used and abused, some have lost a lot, including their lives, which it absolutely heartbreaking., its those people that were victims. Not everyone whose had a romance with a Tunisian is a victim, the word is used to often.
People need to take some responsibility for what has happened, they were never forced to send money, gifts, pay for the visas etc.
You may think my words are harsh, but im realistic, i will give empathy where empathy is due, but i will never sugarcoat my words to appease others . These are grown up women who should enter these relationships with eyes wide open.
If a young Tunisian is showing you attention and telling you beautiful words and you want some fun, go for it, but keep the rose tinted glasses off.
We could discuss the women that buy these men, this is something that isn’t discussed enough.
There are two sides to every story and that is something to bare in mind.
We are not a support group per say, but we are a group that shows red flags and a place where people can come and share their stories and ask for help and advice. A lot more goes on behind the scenes of this group than many realise.

These men are not poor nor live in poverty, they may not live to standard some are used to living, but, they will never go hungry or thirsty. The homeless you see on your streets every day, the mum trying to feed her kids living off benefits is living in poverty, were seeing it daily on our tv the people starving in Gaza, that is poverty not these young guys. Dont be fooled and taken in by this. Women are throwing money at them, if someone was offering to buy me gifts, would I refuse?

Lets talk about the women who like to hunt, it may sound weird, but its true. The older lady who hunts down young Tunisian men, they befriended them on social media, flirt with them, show them videos of everything they have, will visit them, will sleep with them and then move on to the next man and do this all throughout the summer months, back and forth to tunisia meeting up with a different man each time why is this never discussed?

The women that know they are being used but just like those old men who like a trophy girl on his arm, these women want want a young man on theirs. They know they are buying attention and sex and they dont care, until he no longer wants to be involved with them and he tries to finish the relationship and the women turns abusive, then joins a group to play the victim, you hear one side of the story and take it as fact.

There is the culture and religious differences that never get talked about enough, but thats for another post.

We could tell you stories from both sides that would make you cringe (with facts) these are the type of stories some could do with being known and read by everyone, which leads me back to the start of this post – not everything is as black and white as it seems.

The lady that posted the Fab photo of her and her younger lover , are you not embarrassed enough that you have to tell us how many times a week your intimate , it is bad enough that your believing he loves you its your purse he loves , and when your bankrupt and hurt and the fact you posted it on here tells me you are already doubting him.

Maybe this is for open discussion.
I understand that we as women seek more love as we get older.
I live in the United States and we see men that are in their sixties and seventies or older with women that could be their granddaughters. Yet, we accept this without so much ridicule.
These women are older, lonely and hopeful to find love in their Golden years.
Most older men their ages prefer the younger woman to keep them young.
I think that we should be mindful of degrading these women because they seek love.
With any man no matter where he is from , we need to tread softly and listen to our instincts.
Every woman loves it when she is called beautiful no matter the age.
This group is great at pointing out the Red Flags.
Things to look for… These men are poor and what they do is wrong. And there is no excuse for it.
But poverty makes people behave in very immoral ways.
The comments… it disgusting to date a man half your age. If you’re ugly, fat , or if you do not look like Halle Berry or Jlo .. what man would want you!
My philosophy is .. do not shame these women because they are looking for love.. they have already been victimized enough.
I had to say this because some of the comments just make me cringe!