Hello everyone, I need to get something off my chest. It’s hard to explain how I feel to someone who doesn’t know about Tunisian men, but I’m sure you get it. I’ll skip the emotional details and keep it concise.

I’m from Germany and about two weeks ago, I spontaneously traveled to Tunisia with my mother. We were basically the last guests before the hotel closed for the season. There were barely any other guests, and all were much older than me. So, I started spending time with the guys from the animation team. They knew from the start that, as a student, I didn’t have money, so I ruled out the idea that they spent time with me for financial reasons. I found one of them attractive; we were the same age, we talked a lot, and there was a connection. I didn’t tell him that, but maybe he sensed it because soon after, he mentioned feeling a strong connection with me, blah blah. Foolishly, I wanted to believe it, since I liked him. But my gut feeling—or rather, my rational mind—told me early on to keep my distance. He was consistent in showing affection, but my skepticism kept making me pull back. Then he would be sweet again, making me doubt my caution.

It all came to a head when I told him I couldn’t marry him if that was his intention. Understandably, he was hurt by that, but in hindsight, it revealed more of his true self. By the way, I didn’t allow any physical intimacy, which he respected, so I didn’t feel pressured by him.

We left around the same time, said our goodbyes, and I messaged him again about the marriage topic, apologizing if I had hurt him. Shortly after, he blocked me. I was completely confused, and everything just felt baffling. I desperately needed some answers, so I created a new account to check up on him (yes, I know, not the best move). I figured that his friends, whom I also met and followed online, wouldn’t be honest with me. I found out that he’s now with another German woman, and she’s visiting him in his home country. It’s obviously painful, but also somewhat reassuring that my instincts were right—I just didn’t want to trust them. He hasn’t been following her for long, so she must be someone from the current season; she was there in August. He knew her before pretending with me. In the end, she was probably just the one who played along better. His followers and following list are full of European women. I also noticed that his follower count often goes up and down, which suggests he blocks or gets blocked frequently. And one more thing worth mentioning: the only female member of the animation team, who unfortunately spoke very little English, once told me he was a cheater, and he overheard it. I brushed it off because I didn’t want to create an awkward situation. Well, she was probably trying to warn me.

Two of the other guys on the animation team both recently got engaged to two Polish friends just before I arrived—funny enough.

I’m now wondering if I should write to his current girlfriend to warn her to be cautious or reach out to the female team member to ask what she meant by calling him a cheater. Or maybe I should just try to move on, even though it’s hard.

One more thing that makes this situation awkward: while I was there, his boss offered me a summer job as a guest liaison for German visitors, which I’d like to do during my summer break. The pay isn’t great compared to Germany, but I’d live by the beach for two months for free and improve my French skills. I’m worried that if I see him there, he might make things difficult for me. But who knows, he might be in Germany by then lol.

Long story, I know. I’d appreciate some feedback.