I sometimes feel sorry for these young men, the best is to keep distance. they think that Europe is a dream world, they will fulfil their European dream and would like to escape to afford what average Europeans can afford at their age. This is like a hunger that cannot be fed. They know nothing about the life here and as they are socialized in different culture, its difficult to explain them that it does not function as they imagine. i can completely understand that a middle aged woman can be a stepping stone even a safety belt, shelter as they are not the highest qualified people with desire for better life. I think, women ahould consider before making decision about these relationships. Is it my responsibility to help? How much and in what i will help? They do not seem to understand that its not about coming here, but they have to establish their life in different culture, different rules of the society. i think, this is what they cannot cope with more or less succesfully. Each relationship requires at least 2 people ( it sounds funny, but thats also the European reality). if we enter a relationship, we have to accept both the negative and positive side. Marrying a man just for few nice words also says something about us. If we do not do this in Europe, why do we do with a foreigner?